It’s One Year Since My Mother’s Passing

Remembrance advertisement in The Hindu

Remembrance advertisement in The Hindu

September 7, 2015

Last year this day (September 7, 2014) my mother, Sathiavathy Gnanadhas, attained eternity. We are unable to make it to Chennai for her first anniversary but my brother is organising a prayer meeting at my home in Kilpauk this evening.

She was only 76 and could have lived longer had she paid greater attention to her health.

She had more faith in homeopathy than allopathy and will hardly take advice to the contrary. She blindly believed allopathic treatments caused more harm than good.

Me paying tributes to mom at the Thanksgiving service in September 2014

Me paying tributes to mom at the Thanksgiving service in September 2014

When you have heart and other serious ailments indigenous medicine can only expedite your death. This is what happened to her.

When we did persuade her to take allopathic medicine she was always half-hearted and irregular. It did not help that she lived alone with none to ensure she kept her intakes – except during the last three months of her life.

A Cardiologist Friend’s Lament: That was a period when she was attended to by a cardiologist from Malar Hospital and other doctors. But it was too late. A senior cardiologist, who was a close family friend, visited her often at our home and his lament always was that she never followed medical advice.

When I spoke to him from Singapore during her last days he said there was no hope then, almost chiding me for not paying attention to her.

Mom at the Phoenix Mall, Dec, 2013 - less than a year before she passed away

Mom at the Phoenix Mall, Dec, 2013 – less than a year before she passed away

As the eldest of her two sons, I cannot disown responsibility.

Mom with me at our flat in Singapore 2009

Mom with me at our flat in Singapore, 2009

It will haunt me that she gave up without a fight. She will remain in our memory for ever.

G Joslin Vethakumar

Mom with Indira Gandhi

Mom with Indira Gandhi

Mom with Annadurai, then Chief Minister of Tamil Nadu

Mom with Annadurai (next to him), then Chief Minister of Tamil Nadu

Mom during another visit to Singapore

Mom during another visit to Singapore

Mom speaking at a function presided by then Congress leader, GK Moopanar

Mom speaking at a function presided by then Congress leader, GK Moopanar

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